All the Days of Her Life
Over the past couple of months, I’ve been reading through different chapters in the Bible, and before I knew it, my reading for the day was Proverbs 31. I’m all too familiar with the text in this chapter which describes the ideal virtuous woman. I’ve read a dozen of articles and listened to several podcasts that have helped me understand this passage. Half of my heart (the know-it-all side of me) wanted to quickly skim through the verses and continue with my prayer time, but the other half (the curious and teachable side of me) felt a tug to sit with the passage. So, I humbled myself and tried to see the familiar text with an open mind.
As I carefully traced my fingers along each verse, something stirred within me as I read verse 12, She brings him [husband] good, not harm, ALL the days of her life. I’m currently in a season of singleness [intentionally not dating so I can discern my vocation], and I’ve been savouring every moment of it. However, I’d be lying if I said that I don’t slip in a prayer for a good Christian husband every now and then. That being said, even though I sometimes get lost in a dreamy haze about what my future husband should be like, I am encouraged to focus on growing more into the kind of woman that God created me to be.
I am inspired to want to be a Godly woman. From the examples I have seen in scripture and the women around me in my community, I am convicted that she needs to live set apart. The world will tempt her to do anything but that, but she is called to put God first, above all things and relationships. Never has a line struck me as deeply as verse 12. I always thought that becoming a Godly woman started with your husband and on your wedding day, but I feel encouraged that this needn’t be so. Regardless of my vocation, I can start growing as a Godly woman right here, right now. The bonus is that if I am called to marriage, then that is the best way for me to prepare anyway. If marriage is all about becoming more yourself with another person, then regardless of my vocation, focusing on growing into who God created me to be will best prepare me for my future.
I am called to focus on this not only in my prayer, but also in my relationships. I am especially convicted to be more aware of the way I interact with others— whether it is the way I dress, what and how much I share, and to check what my lifestyle promotes. For example, sometimes I can share too deeply and reveal too much of my heart to someone prematurely because I desire an intimate relationship and am tired of waiting, This verse has encouraged me that if I am called to marriage I can choose to honour my future husband in my thoughts and my behaviour even before I have met him. If I’m not called to marriage then it is still fruitful to grow in security in my identity without needing affirmation and validation from men my age. This has changed my thinking radically. Now I see that becoming a Godly woman requires glorifying Him in daily interactions and situations. I can trust that honouring God through my thoughts, words and deeds, is the best way to prepare me for the plans He has for my future. Likewise, I can be confident that He will prepare the people He plans to put into my life. In the end, I have realized my primary focus should be on becoming who I am created to be, and God will provide for all my needs and desires.
Pearl Mathias lives in the small town of Mazgaon, in the big city of Mumbai. She had the most beautiful encounter with the Lord while serving in Kairos, India. She spends her daylight hours writing for a local newspaper and buries herself in a book come night. She's easily inspired by people, fascinated by sunsets and in love with tea. Her mission is to be more Christ-like, right where she is, using what she has and doing what she can.